Making a Decision

Making a Decision



There are so many things we need to decide, and becoming a good decision maker saves a lot of energy, and is linked to having good self-esteem and confidence. Frequently when we find it hard to decide we are questioning our own wisdom. In the chakra system, the solar plexus chakra is linked to this issue and when we feel strong in our solar plexus we are able to make decisions easily as we stand in our power.

How many times in a day do we need to make decisions? What will I wear? Shall I allow my child to play that game? Do I want to go ahead with this or not?

Being a good decision maker is sometimes modelled in the home when we are growing up, but we can also learn to do this by ourselves. By setting the intention to become a good decision-maker, we can practise this today. Catch yourself, without judgement, when you are finding it hard to decide on something. Breathe in deeply and tune into what your body tells you feels like the right choice. You will get more confident at it the more you practise it. Learn to trust your intuition.

‘You can virtually eliminate conflict and confusion in your life by becoming proficient at making decisions. Decision-making brings order to your mind, and of course, this order is then reflected in your results.’ Bob Proctor.

EFT can also help us to make decisions. When tapping on the two things you are deciding between in such a way ‘I want to do this AND I feel worried about it’ instead of using the word ‘but,’ you open up possibilities instead of compounding the conflict. So, you feel worried and you want to do something? Then break it down into all of its subsections, what could go wrong? What could go right?

I have made a video here which looks very generally about making decisions. Often the calm that EFT brings also helps us to think straight. Sometimes indecisiveness can be fuelled by stress or overwhelm.

Affirmation: “It is easy for me to make wise decisions.”

The Law of Attraction for Beginners

The Law of Attraction for Beginners



The law of attraction states that what we think about we create. Our thoughts create our experiences. It’s the biggest secret, well errr, not since The Secret movie and book came out, but it’s something that we should all be aware of. Look at the things you have already manifested in your life, your achievements. To do this began with a picture, an idea in your mind. You revisited the picture many times in your thoughts, and you acted in such a way that made it happen. But if you hadn’t had that vision, you possibly would not have been able to do it.

The law of attraction is not the only law. There are other factors at play. If that were the only law then everyone who was suffering in any way would be entirely responsible, and we wouldn’t bother helping anyone. We’d say ‘well if you weren’t thinking so negatively then this wouldn’t have happened, now would it?’ That said, I have met many people, and I include myself, who have learned about the law of attraction and seen it in action and can’t wait to tell everyone about it. It’s all very well to say to someone who is not feeling good in themselves ‘try thinking more positively about this’ but don’t expect a clap on the back for it. They have to come to that conclusion for themselves, and so unless they ask you about it, I should think just being a good example of the law of attraction in action is the best way of helping.

Have you experienced thinking about something a lot and then it shows up in your life? An example would be thinking about a certain holiday destination and then you get to go there. Not just because you idly daydreamed about it, but in your mind you created it, and took the necessary actions to make that happen. It works in the negative sense too – ‘I’m going to slip’ and you slip, ‘I’m going to fail the test,’ and you fail the test.

If you consider for a moment the thoughts you have had over the last hour, you will remember a lot of them I expect. Have they been positive or negative, worrisome or confident, critical or grateful? If you are a worrier, it doesn’t mean you have to stay a worrier if you’d like to change. We can change our thoughts. This comes as a surprise to many, as though our thoughts are just like trains passing in and out of the station of our mind. But we affect them, and just as we can train up muscles in the body, we can train our thoughts.

Some of the things people use are:

  • Affirmations
  • Goal setting and daily planners
  • Brain dump (where you write out all the thoughts in your head on paper and can then start looking at solutions rather than having them muddling around your head in an unruly fashion)
  • Prayer
  • Meditation
  • Gratitude lists (writing down ten things a day you feel grateful for)
  • Positive visualisation
  • Oh and of course…. EFT!!! EFT stand for emotional freedom techniques and involves you gently tapping on energy meridians whilst focusing on something you want to work with in your personal development, see the demo video below:

Get Super Focused with EFT

Get Super Focused with EFT



What does it take to get super focused when you are feeling woolly, distracted and are finding it hard to move forward and get things done? Well for me, that would be EFT, a fast emerging technique sometimes referred to as ‘psychological acupressure’ that releases blockages within the energy system that have been causing emotional discomfort. Think of the emotions or feelings associated with the inability to focus. You might have your own ones; I came up with:

  • Frustration
  • Overwhelm
  • Guilt
  • Anxiety

And now think of the emotions or feelings you associate with feeling super focused. Again, here are mine:

  • Confidence
  • Competence
  • Purpose
  • Satisfaction

You may feel a sense of calm when you are focused, but also inspired and ready to take action. So now that you have your two lists, how do you get from A to B? In EFT I would take either one of two approaches, you could either tap for the unpleasant feelings in order to acknowledge and release them, and sometimes uncover useful information that you didn’t realise that has been blocking you from getting focused. An example might be: if I got focused and achieved this thing I might then be forced to look at something else I have been avoiding in my life. The subconscious mind is no short of genius and does its best to keep us safe in the way it thinks is effective. So sometimes we might have an unconscious block to being focused because there is something else behind the ‘fog’ that we are avoiding. This work can be achieved on your own if you are comfortable and confident using EFT but sometimes work in pairs is best, with an experienced EFT practitioner.

The other way is to use the positive EFT approach where you simply tap on a word, say the word ‘focus.’ Positive EFT is a fantastic simple way to invite qualities into your being which can change our emotions quickly. You could also tap on the words: confidence, competence, purpose, satisfaction or any other positive verb you can think of.

As always, EFT is a fantastic tool that people can learn off the internet in minutes, has minimal reports of negative effects and masses of positive reports for a huge range of life issues, but it should be used with discretion and personal responsibility. Best of all with an EFT practitioner first of all or in a training setting.

Below I have posted a demonstrational video for getting focused using modern Energy EFT. If you are going to participate why not rate how you feel before and after to measure the effect? You can do this with Silvia Hartmann’s SUE scale, which goes from minus 10 (as unfocused as you could possibly feel) all the way through to plus 10 where you are over the moon/ focused as you could ever be, and zero being neither focused or unfocused.

SUE image

I see people in North Co. Kerry, Ireland for counselling and EFT and internationally via Skype for EFT. I also have online EFT programmes. Want to know more, get in touch.

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