Only when we are truly compassionate with ourselves can we be authentically compassionate to others. This is where the saying ‘healer heal thyself’ comes into play. Time and time again we see people who love to help others but are frankly cruel to themselves.
Are you compassionate with yourself? Is your inner dialogue compassionate towards you? How do you respond to yourself when you make mistakes or fall short of your hopes and expectations?
If you are harsh on yourself, you are certainly not alone. Perfectionists tend to be the worst at this, but it’s not just them that do it. I also have a blog about perfectionism read it here.
Sometimes when we feel intolerant of others we could benefit from feeling more compassion. It would be much more comfortable for us, regardless of the other person and how they are. Imagine someone or a situation you have felt annoyed about. Now imagine that you feel compassion about this. Whatever comes up is food for thought.
We might resist feeling compassion for certain things, especially if we feel passionately that they are wrong. Maybe by feeling compassion we would be somehow concurring with this or allowing it? So, in those cases I invite you to think of compassionate action. Action towards positive change but while maintaining a stance of compassion. Even if only compassion for yourself if that is what is more appropriate.
1) Make a list of what you like about yourself, your achievements, things you have done that are kind, helpful, useful and so on. Spend some time reflecting on these. Even keep the list somewhere that you can read it every day for a month. Add to it as you think of more things.
2) When you reflect on mistakes of the past or present, look at them through the eyes of a loving friend. One way to do this is to imagine your friend telling you that they had done this. How would you respond? Say out loud or in your head in response to self-criticising thoughts ‘I was doing the best I could in that moment.’ And if there is learning to be had from the experience ‘next time I would like to do this…’
3) Visualise that you are breathing in compassion. More and more compassion fills your body as you breathe in. You can do this anywhere, even at work. You might like to imagine that compassion has a colour, and allow that beautiful colour to soften and flow around the body and mind.
4) Use Energy EFT, tap on the word compassion. Notice how it affects your breathing, your posture, your thoughts. You can also tap on sending compassion to others. Send compassion to world leaders or to areas of conflict. Simply tap a round on compassion for… and the name of whom it is for. We can never know how or if proxy tapping works, but at the very least it helps us to feel calmer and as though we have done something positive.
Here is a video to support you in doing Energy EFT for compassion:
About the author: Susan Browne helps people to feel great in their energy and achieve their goals through Energy EFT. She is a Guild of Energists Energy EFT Trainer, teaching in Co. Kerry & Galway, Ireland and she provides internationally Energy EFT Sessions, Angel EFT and Success Mentoring via Skype. Susan is the author of ‘Angel EFT, Tap Into the Angelic Realm with Modern Energy EFT’ DragonRising Publishing, 2016 and is also an Accredited Counsellor with the APCP. Get in touch for more info. Follow Susan at Light Life Learning on Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.