Beat Procrastination with Inspiration

Beat Procrastination with Inspiration

Beat Procrastination with Inspiration

Do you have a goal you’ve wanted to achieve for years but you keep putting it off? Or something you want to manifest or create in your life that isn’t showing up yet? This blog challenges you to revisit this and overcome procrastination, replacing it with inspiration.. and ultimately, action! 

Step 1) Take Responsibility

Acknowledge that you are in control of your destiny. It’s up to you. Some people get stuck on this because they point the finger outside of themselves which leaves them feeling powerless. Examples might be blaming one’s lack of action on other people or outside circumstances rather than seeking out a solution. When we blame things/people around us we are in victim mode, which isn’t empowering. To launch yourself out of victim mode ask yourself what one thing you could do to help yourself to move forward. You can always do something. 

Step 2) Get Excited

See yourself having it/having achieved your goal. Get excited in the visualisation of your future self. Make pictures in your mind, feel the joy in your body as you imagine it. I like using tapping to tell the story of having achieved the thing and really celebrating it while tapping around the points. 

Step 3) Be Clear about Why

There has to be a reason for you to take this action, which isn’t easy otherwise you would have done it ages ago, probably. What is your why? Why do you want this? Write a list of all the reasons you would love to manifest/achieve this. This will help you on days that it’s hard to take the actions. 

Step 4) Know your Enemy… and Make Friends With It

By your enemy, I mean the block that’s been getting in the way. It is possibly a limiting belief. Or simply an excuse (which is usually tied up with a limiting belief). Some typical excuses are:

‘I can’t be more positive because I am surrounded by negativity.’

‘I can’t earn more because of the economy.’

‘I can’t work on my relationships the way I want to because I have no time.’

‘I could never be successful because none of my family was.’

‘I can’t do this because I don’t have the motivation.’

‘I can’t exercise because the weather is too bad.’

You get the idea!! 🙂

Step 5) Repeat Step 2!!


  • Rate yourself now on the vibrational scale (above) making the statement ‘I am totally aligned with my goal and am moving powerfully towards it,’ and then measure how true this is. 10 is completely and utterly true. Five is neither true nor false, and below five is untrue with 0 being the farthest away from the truth possible.
  • If you are 10 then you are okay, no need to continue. Any less, then proceed to this part: Write down any thoughts or beliefs that you have about not being able to achieve your goals. List them separately from one another as headings. Now look carefully at each one and see how true or helpful it is, and if you’d like to change it.
  • Follow the video below tapping modern energy EFT to help raise your number (or you can use the Energy EFT SUE scale in the video, they work equally well). Towards the end of the video, you can pause it and keep tapping using words directly relevant to you and your goals or issues. Finish with a positive round. Stuck for ideas? Browse my YouTube channel.

The aim is to get your number to 10 to overcome any patterns like this. Tapping helps us to overcome blocks and limiting beliefs, that get in the way of us fully flourishing.

About the author:

Known as YouTube’s Angel EFT lady, Susan is a life coachtapping practitionerangel workshop facilitator and writer. International bestselling spiritual author, Diana Cooper, commended her self-help book, Angel EFT. Susan specialises in helping people to get clear about their life purpose and release blocks to joy and success. Focusing on letting go of limiting beliefs that have been putting happiness on hold, and then powerfully visualising what the client wants to create. She has coached writers, business owners, teachers, doctors, artists and all number of clients who wish to improve their life.


5 Ways to Lighten Your Thoughts

5 Ways to Lighten Your Thoughts

5 Ways to Lighten Your Thoughts and Improve your life

I love the idea of being a Thought Master. It has a nice ring to it, whether it’s possible or not, I’d like to share some of the tips that I have found effective in mastering one’s thoughts. There’s also an Energy EFT video for lightening up. 

There’s a lot of speculation as to just how many thoughts we have every day, but what we do know is that it’s in the thousands and that many of today’s thoughts are likely to overlap with yesterdays. We go over the same thoughts many, many times. So I think it’s worth having a look at your thoughts and weeding out any that aren’t serving you. Those negative ones that pull you down. Jot down one now, if you can remember, your last negative or worrisome thought. Without judging yourself. Now, here are 5 ways to lighten your thoughts:

1) Turn the thought into a question

If the thought is about something that upsets or annoys you, try to turn it into a question.

Here are a few examples:

I don’t get enough help around here; it’s so unfair. Ask the question: How can I get more help around here?

I’m so lonely. Ask the question: How can I support myself to feel more connected?

I have no control over my diet. Ask the question: How can I help myself around my eating?

That person is so annoying/wrong (insert other adjective). Ask the question: What can I do to support myself around this person so that I don’t get so triggered? I even like to ask, ‘what is this person showing me about me?’

Notice how all of those questions started with the word ‘how’ or ‘what?’ How is a very good question word, as well as ‘what?’ Words such as ‘why’ are usually less supportive for us as they might lead us into the ‘it’s not fair,’ victim mode, or casting judgement. How/what are often more exploratory and solution-focussed. 

2) Acceptance

In mindfulness, Padraig O’Morain points out that the first part is awareness (being aware of what’s going on) and the second part is accepting it, without rushing into judgement. That means accepting how you feel without fighting it. NOT lying down and doing nothing. There’s a difference. In Dialectal Behaviour Therapy, the concept of radical acceptance is where our emotional mind and rational mind meet, and we see the situation more objectively. 

3) Choose Company with Care

We can’t always choose who we live with but we can often choose, to some extent, the friends we have and the people we surround ourselves with, and that counts for online as well as physical. What’s interesting is, as you raise your vibration, you will usually naturally drift away from certain people and attract more positive people into your life. Also look at what you listen to, on the TV, YouTube, Whatsapp, podcasts or such. Is it/are they inspiring? Or are you left with negative thoughts? Fine-tune what you listen to and engage with to create more positivity in your life. 

4) Think about What You Love

Make a conscious effort, many times throughout the love to think about the things you love. Things you feel excited about or grateful for. 

I didn’t used to like winter. I fought with it in my head and used to ruminate about all the things I didn’t like about it. But that’s changed now. I see the beauty in winter. The cosiness of having a warm home (and I’m very grateful for that) and being able to look out at harsh weather. The fact that Christmas is in winter, and I like Christmas. The beauty of nature as it goes into sleepy-mode, even though if you look closely, there’s still so much happening. The joy of a crisp, sunny day and the photos I can take. 

5) Learn to manage your energy

In my book ‘Angel EFT, tap into the Angelic Realms with Modern Energy EFT’ I have a chapter called ‘Energy Hygiene’ which talks about how to mind your energy around difficult people and situations. In truth, nobody can really steal our energy since there is a never-ending supply. However, some people will test us to the limit and we can full of negative thoughts after being with them. You can use positive visualisation to mind your energy around certain people. I have often visualised that I am surrounded in a ball of light, or bubble. That negativity just pings off it and can’t get through.

As a bonus to 5 Ways to Lighten your thoughts, here is the Energy EFT video for lightening up. Enjoy! Susan


About the author:

Known as YouTube’s Angel EFT lady, Susan is a life coachtapping practitionerangel workshop facilitator and writer. International bestselling spiritual author, Diana Cooper, commended her self-help book, Angel EFT. Susan specialises in helping people to get clear about their life purpose and release blocks to joy and success. Focusing on letting go of limiting beliefs that have been putting happiness on hold, and then powerfully visualising what the client wants to create. She has coached writers, business owners, teachers, doctors, artists and all number of clients who wish to improve their life.

5 Ways to Cultivate Self Compassion

5 Ways to Cultivate Self Compassion

Only when we are truly compassionate with ourselves can we be authentically compassionate to others. This is where the saying ‘healer heal thyself’ comes into play. Time and time again we see people who love to help others but are mean to themselves, putting themselves last. 

For that reason, if you are always looking out for others then see having compassion for yourself as necessary to do so. 

“Having compassion starts and ends with having compassion for all those unwanted parts of ourselves. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.”

-Pema Chodron

Are you compassionate with yourself? Is your inner dialogue kindness towards you? How do you respond to yourself when you make mistakes or fall short of your hopes and expectations?

If you are harsh on yourself, you are certainly not alone. 

Sometimes when we feel intolerant of others we could benefit from feeling more compassion. It would be much more comfortable for us, regardless of the other person and how they are. Imagine someone or a situation you have felt annoyed about. Now imagine that you feel compassion about this. Whatever comes up is food for thought.

We might resist feeling compassion for certain things or people, especially if we feel strongly that they are ‘wrong’. Maybe by feeling compassion we would be somehow concurring with this or allowing it? 

So, in those cases, I invite you to think of compassionate action. Action towards positive change but while maintaining a stance of compassion. Even if only compassion for yourself if that is what is more appropriate. Become the watcher. Notice your experience. If you are feeling annoyed, say to yourself, ‘I notice I am feeling annoyed. I wonder how it would be to have compassion for someone at the same time as feeling annoyed. How might that be?’ Be curious. Experiment. 

1) List the things you like about you

Make a list of what you like about yourself, your achievements, things you have done that are kind, helpful, useful and so on. Spend some time reflecting on these. Even keep the list somewhere that you can read it every day for a month. Add to it as you think of more things. 

2) See yourself through the eyes of a loving friend 

Imagine your friend telling you about the things they don’t like about themselves – perhaps a mistake they’ve made or something they beat themselves up about. How would you respond? 

3) Reflect and learn 

Say out loud or in your head in response to self-criticising thoughts ‘I was doing the best I could in that moment.’ And if there is learning to be had from the experience ‘if this situation came around again, I’d like to…’ finish the sentence to read how you would like to do things differently. 

4) Visualise that you are breathing in compassion 

Imagine that more and more compassion fills your body as you breathe in. You can do this anywhere, even at work. You might like to imagine that compassion has a colour, and allow that beautiful colour to soften and flow around the body and mind.

5) Use EFT or tapping 

Tap on the word compassion. Notice how it affects your breathing, your posture, your thoughts. You can also tap on sending compassion to others. Send compassion to world leaders or to areas of conflict. Simply tap a round on compassion for… and the name of whom it is for. We can never know how or if proxy tapping works, but at the very least it helps us to feel calmer and as though we have done something positive.

Here is a video to support you in doing Energy EFT for compassion:

About the author: 

Susan Browne helps people to feel great in their energy and achieve their goals through ENERGY EFT and WELLNESS COACHINGGET IN TOUCH for more info.



Raising Your Mood with EFT

Raising Your Mood with EFT

Raising Your Mood with EFT

When our mood is low, from an energy point of view, there are energy blockages. We tap to improve energy flow and thus remove the blockage. It doesn’t matter which style of tapping or EFT you use – use what you are familiar with or tap along with me in the video below which is in the style of Silvia Hartmann’s Modern Energy Tapping.

Below is the Vibrational Scale that I designed for Angel EFT


How can you raise your mood with tapping?

  • Rate yourself now on the vibrational scale above (or the SUE scale in the video) so that you have a before and after. 
  • Start by de-stressing first, by tapping on a word such as ‘peace,’ ‘calm’ or ‘relax.’
  • Now think of a word that is positive and uplifting to you. It might be joy, happiness, bliss, confident, love, abundance, creative flow and so on. Any word that feels positive to you.
  • Tap a round on that and keep tapping. You can use the same word each time or a new one. Develop the word into a sentence if you wish. For example ‘I invite peace into my life.’ ‘I am open to creative ideas.’ ‘I support myself in clearing the energy of my home.’
  • After each round check in with the scale again and rate how you are doing.

The idea is to keep improving energy flow, which naturally correlates with our mood. The better the energy flow, the brighter your mood. Tapping gives us a fast and free way to improve energy flow. You can really have fun with this too. You can tap for any number of fun and uplifting things.

Tap on what’s annoying you

Contrary to what I was used to living by – that speaking about that which you don’t like attracts it – this works differently in tapping. If something is really annoying you and driving you to distraction, it’s possible that tapping on the word ‘peace’ will not hit the spot. Instead, choose a word or phrase that represents what’s bugging you. If you’re annoyed with someone, tap saying their name. Strange though it may seem, this helps to release the energy block that this topic finds you in. NOW –> when you’re feeling a little less pent up about that issue, move over to the positive’s. Pick the opposite of that feeling or something entirely different. You’ll know if you’re ready to move on to the positives because if you’re not you’ll still find that positive set-up annoying and unlikely. If so, try spending longer on the thing that’s bugging you. Change the words. 

Tap on your goals

I find it very uplifting to tap on my goals. Get into a dialogue about having already achieved your goal. This is like having a conversation with yourself – your future self who is so happy to have achieved the goal is telling your current self how wonderful it feels. I sometimes call this manifestation tapping. Once, I was trying to manifest a wonderful holiday. I used to tap saying out loud what it was like in the lovely place I was staying. How I was watching the sunrise, sitting beside the pool having a cup of coffee feeling so amazing. Just doing this while tapping around the points brought such a smile to my face. And I’m happy to say the holiday manifested – and I did sit beside the pool with my coffee enjoying the sunrise. 

Other tips:

  • Move whilst tapping. Don’t be afraid to tap while you dance along to an uplifting song.
  • If you comfort eat when your mood is subdued, tap before you start eating. This may help you to eat more mindfully, and if you eat too much, it may help you to opt for a healthier portion size.
  • Do something kind for someone else (or for yourself!!). Think random acts of kindness. Doing something kind for someone else helps take the focus out, which can be helpful when in a low mood state, which can tend to be inward-looking.
  • Plant flowers/bulbs. Get your hands dirty. Feel the earth in your hands. This is very grounding, and satisfying too. At time of writing in Ireland, it is Autumn, perfect for planting daffodil/snowdrop/crocus/tulip bulbs etc., which will brighten up another day early next year. Win-win!
  • Smell something nice: incense, essential oils or whatever you can and that you like. Stimulating your sense of smell with a lovely aroma can give you a lift. For low mood, try the citrus oils, especially orange. I have an aromatherapy oil diffuser and it gives me a real lift and feels like an act of self-care to put it going. 

Top Tip:

  • Tap a gratitude tapping round on all the things you can think of that you feel grateful for. They don’t have to be big things, even that you have shoes on your feet is fine.

Need Extra Support? Book a session with me.

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About the author: Susan Browne helps people to feel great in their energy and achieve their goals. She provides  Energy EFT sessions and WELLNESS COACHING. Susan is a qualified counsellor and mental health nurse. Get in touch for more info.

Learn to Say No

Learn to Say No

Do you find it hard to say no to people? If so, you are not alone. Some of us hate to disappoint, upset or lose favour with others. If saying no doesn’t come naturally to you, don’t worry, you can learn.

Why is saying no difficult for some people?

– A fear of letting other people down.
– The worry that saying no might make the other person angry. 
A habit of putting others’ needs before your own. 
– Wanting to be seen as obliging and helpful – and not selfish. 

Always saying yes to people can leave you feeling exhausted and shows a lack of self-care. It can be even harder to break the cycle as others’ learn that you will always say yes, and expect this. When you decide to change, you’ll also need to re-educate those people about your new stance. Some may find it strange, and even put the pressure on more at first – but hold firm and they will learn. When you say yes to something that compromises you – you are saying no to yourself. 

Why it’s good to say no to things that don’t support us:

– Having good boundaries is a sign of strength and self-worth.
– It is helpful to others who have a tendency to take all the time, to know that you are no longer supporting that. If people take you for granted, you are making the problem worse by letting them get away with it all the time. 
– It preserves our energy and supports balance and wellbeing.
– It means we have more time to do things that matter to us. 

Useful Tips:

– If you are not sure how to answer a person when you want to say no, it’s okay to say: ‘I’m not sure, I’ll check this out and let you know soon.’ This gives you time to prepare your response.
– If someone was to pressurise for an immediate answer, I would refuse, simply because asking for more time is a reasonable request and they have been disrespectful by not allowing that. 
– Keep it short and simple: ‘Sorry but I’m not available.’ Don’t give endless reasons why – it’s probably none of their business. But if you do tell them, always tell the truth. If you keep justifying why you are saying no, you show that you are totally uncomfortable with it and are open to persuasion.
– Be polite. Look them in the eye. Just because you are saying no, doesn’t imply that you are mean, don’t like the person, or don’t respect them.


As we raise energy flow through the energy body it also helps us to feel more empowered. Being a doormat or people pleaser always leaves you with less energy. Give yourself the gift today of saying no when something is asked of you that doesn’t feel right.

Need more help with this? Try out the Energy EFT video below or book an EFT session with Susan. Any questions? Get in touch

4 Ways to Overcome Shyness

4 Ways to Overcome Shyness

4 Ways to Overcome Shyness

Stop describing yourself as shy

The words we say and think about ourselves are powerful. If you keep describing yourself this way, you, and others will see you that way. Instead why not say ‘I am helping myself to feel more confident,’ or even better, use an affirmation. Affirmations are statements which affirm what you are working towards or hoping for is already so. Example:

I am confident and love speaking with other people

I enjoy public speaking and feel good about it

Or whatever it is that you feel you can’t do right now and would love to be able to, turn it into your own affirmation. Read it and say it many times each day.

Practise those things you find challenging every day

Practise makes perfect. Think of it as a workout of sorts, strengthening those confidence muscles. If you are serious about evolving out of your shyness you need to roll up your sleeves and do some anti-shyness workouts on a regular basis. If you find yourself avoiding talking to others, find small opportunities to do so. Make small talk at the checkout, it’s fine to comment on the weather if you are not sure what to say, one step at a time. Make that phone call you have been avoiding making, rather than sending a text or email.

Use your Mirror to Help You

Ever talk to yourself in the mirror? Have a conversation. Warning: If you have never done this before it is possible that you will feel super-silly and awkward the first few times. It gets easier though. Enjoy saying good morning or good night to yourself, and ‘how is your day going?’ Why would I do this? Because it’s practise. The more you do it the less icky it feels and it’s really no big deal. It’s also very affirming to say hi to yourself. It’s possible that some people’ shyness is worsened by not having a great relationship with self. Is this the case for you? Make friends with yourself, and you will be easier to make friends with.

Watch how confident, non-shy looking people do things and learn

….Not so you can say to yourself ‘I’ll never be like that.’ You won’t – because you are you. But what is it that you admire about the way they carry themselves, the things they talk about, their mannerisms, their air of confidence etc? Can you imagine any of these things translated onto you in your new way of being? Get clear about what changes you would like to achieve for yourself by being inspired by others. It’s quite different from trying to emulate or copy them.


Below is a video from you YouTube channel you might enjoy and find useful for overcoming shyness also. If you like it, please share with others who might benefit, and subscribe.

About the author: Susan Browne helps people to feel great in their energy and achieve their goals through Energy EFT. She is a Guild of Energists Energy EFT Trainer, teaching in Co. Kerry & Galway, Ireland and she provides internationally  Energy EFT Sessions and Angel EFT via Skype. Susan is the author of ‘Angel EFT, Tap Into the Angelic Realm with Modern Energy EFT’ DragonRising Publishing, 2016 and is also an Accredited Counsellor with the APCP. Get in touch for more info. Follow Susan at Light Life Learning on FacebookTwitter, and YouTube. Join Susan’s Facebook prosperity energy group for inspiration and like minded community. 
Me Time? What’s in it for Me?

Me Time? What’s in it for Me?

People go on about having me time, but what is that and who has time for it anyway? Life is so hectic these days, so many people complain. I myself am a multitasker, and have lots of pots on the boil. Me time is something that would have at one point been considered wasteful or indulgent. Until I learned the value of it, and how easy it is to fit it in even when I am busy.
Me time doesn’t have to be a day in the spa, but if it is then great. Or a week on a Greek island for that matter. But if you are pressed for time and/or money, think of self-nurture as baby steps. Think of salt and pepper me time. That is, you can sprinkle it in here and there.
Some ideas for busy people:
“You should sit in meditation for twenty minutes every day — unless you’re too busy. Then you should sit for an hour.” -Zen proverb
  • Learn different ways of breathing and try these out throughout your day. For example, while waiting in a queue, waiting for your child at school, waiting for attachments on an email, etc. Pranayama, in Yoga, has many different types you can try out without anyone really knowing that you are doing that if you are in a public place.
  • Read a chapter of a book you have been meaning to read each day. If you leave this until last thing, try to avoid reading in bed as this can make you sleepy. Sometimes reading is much more satisfying than watching TV, surfing the internet, or scrolling aimlessly through social media sites.
  • Exercise every day – if you can take the stairs instead of the lift, do that. If you can go for even a short brisk walk during lunch, do that. Take movement breaks if you work at a desk and are sitting a lot during the day.
  • Get a pedicure or massage, or other pamper treatment.
  • Listen to a guided visualisation (get my free ten minute one here) either first thing in the morning or at any time you can fit in during the day.
  • Meet an uplifting friend for a cuppa – and just enjoy the chat and being present.
  • Switch off the internet on your phone – so many of us have smart phones now that are constantly interrupting what we are doing, sounding notifications for this, that or the other. I often switch off the Wi-Fi and data, that way if there is anything urgent people can still call me but I’m not being pulled away by social media messages. Things that can wait for their allotted time to be attended to.
  • Try out a new recipe – enjoy shopping for new ingredients and the smell of delicious food being cooked. Have fun!
‘I love having me time every day, and the people around me also benefit.’
This is so true, whether you are a parent, a boss or employee, a student – the people around you benefit from you taking me time and looking after yourself. It also models to others a good way of looking after yourself. It shows that you respect yourself and people respect you more in turn.
Here is an Energy EFT video to help you to create more me time.

About the author: Susan Browne helps people to feel great in their energy and achieve their goals through Energy EFT. Susan is the author of ‘Angel EFT, Tap Into the Angelic Realm with Modern Energy EFT’ DragonRising Publishing, 2016 and is also an Accredited Counsellor with the APCP. Get in touch for more info. Follow Susan at Light Life Learning on Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube. Join Susan’s Facebook prosperity energy group for inspiration and like minded community. 

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8 Ways People Block Prosperity

8 Ways People Block Prosperity



8 Ways People Block Prosperity


There are many ways in which people block prosperity or abundance from coming their way, and I’d like to focus on 8 in this blog. You’ll notice that most of them are centred around beliefs, but also behaviours. Our thoughts are very powerful.

  • Non-deserving – the belief that we don’t deserve any better. That we don’t deserve to feel at ease around money and the knowing that there is always enough and we are always provided for. This can be rooted to issues of self-esteem. If you don’t feel worthy of receiving, you will energetically push prosperity away.
  • Telling yourself you are useless with money. This belief pushes money away as we fear that if we get it we won’t know how to handle it, will fritter it away or someone will somehow snatch it off us.
  • Thinking ‘Money doesn’t like me’ – the belief that money mustn’t like you because it never comes your way, always choosing someone else. This is what the video is aimed at.
  • Scarcity mindset and outlook. Scrimping and scraping. Talking all the time about how you can’t afford this or that, or this is too expensive. This is very challenging to get out of if you are in the habit of it and the universe seems to reflect that there isn’t enough, there’s no real way of getting more and you are in a space of fear.
  • People will be jealous/bully me/hate me if I am prosperous. This is an issue around safety, and feeling unsafe to be more prosperous can show up as a block.
  • The economy is bad – focusing on this all the time pushes prosperity away from you as it is another form of scarcity mindset. I don’t suggest people to bury their head in the sand, but alter the focus to what is good, what is working, what you are receiving. You must be receiving something (air, water, food), right?
  • Complaining all the time and being negative – and the quickest answer to this is to write a daily gratitude list. There is always something to be grateful for, no matter how challenging things are. You can bring yourself into a more positive mindset this way.
  • Prosperous people are bad/materialistic/ego-driven etc. You name it, if you feel that being prosperous makes you bad somehow you will make sure that it doesn’t happen to you.

What I recommend to correct these = Energy EFT tapping!!

Energy EFT (and Angel EFT) is something you can work on yourself. That said, do work with an experienced Master Practitioner for more complex or ingrained issues or if you are not progressing when you try on your own. I also help people with these issues with Angel EFT sessions.

Here is a video aimed at the belief ‘money doesn’t like me.’ Try Energy EFT for any of the above. Tap on the positive. Instead of ‘useless with money’ tap on ‘I am getting good with money, more and more each day.’ Tap on a positive affirmation of your choice.

All of these are in the minuses on the SUE scale. In order to increase your experience of prosperity, you need to get up into the pluses and anchor yourself there.


If you’d like to enjoy 24, laser-focused, exclusive prosperity energy and mindset videos, why not head over to the Prosperity Energy Club Archives?





About the author: Susan Browne helps people to feel great in their energy and achieve their goals through Wellness coaching and Modern Energy Tapping. Susan is the author of ‘Angel EFT, Tap Into the Angelic Realm with Modern Energy EFT’ DragonRising Publishing, 2016 (available from Amazon and the Book Depository) and is also a qualified counsellor with the APCP. Get in touch for more info. Follow Susan at @angeleft on Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.


Forgive Yourself

Forgive Yourself

Notes on learning to forgive yourself

‘When I loved myself enough… I came to know my own goodness.’

– Kim McMillen.

Would we say the same to someone else as what we say to ourselves? Sometimes we can be our own worst critic and are the ones harshest on us of all if we make a mistake, omit to do something that we ought to have.
If you give yourself a hard time about things, start to reflect on how useful this is. Who is it serving? Is it helping you to do better? Quite probably not. When we make a mistake, if we use it as an opportunity for growth and learning, we can improve. By asking the question, ‘how can I do better the next time?’ we support ourselves to do better.
The mind on auto-loop: Some people give themselves a hard time over and over about something. This can be agonizing and eats away at their self-worth. Again, they wouldn’t dream of doing this to a good friend, but to themselves, they keep on and on, wagging the finger.
One strategy to overcome this is to have a ready rehearsed response that you teach yourself to say each time that judging, unforgiving thought pops in.
Judging thought: You are no good as a _____ because you ______
Pre-rehearsed response: You are learning ways of being a great _____ all the time, and each day you are getting better and better.
The mind can run on auto-pilot, so if you were to do this, a little thought and preparation need to go into it. The more you respond with the rehearsed response, the more the mind takes it into the subconscious. It becomes your new, more helpful belief.


  1. List any things you recognise you find hard to forgive about yourself and be open to spotting them over the next few days to catch any you didn’t remember today.
  2. Write these down and then underneath each one write down a more helpful statement, such as the one above called the ‘pre-rehearsed response.’
  3. Practice saying these out loud and in your mind, and keep the page in a safe place so you can refer back to it. The more you practise this, the better it works. You are re-training your brain, and persistence pays.

Guilt and Shame:

Guilt is where we regret something, whereas shame is quite deep-running and is more about what we think of ourselves as a person. Shame can be a very destructive emotion, and those who suffer from it might be best to work with somebody, such as a Wellness Coach or Modern Energy Tapping (or EFT) Master Practitioner.
In Energy EFT there are several approaches to overcoming unforgiveness. You can tap on a positive such as ‘forgiveness,’ or ‘compassion’ to invite these qualities for yourself. Another technique is to talk about the thing you feel bad about whilst tapping around the points. Remember though to de-stress first. Otherwise, you can end up taping on stress talk and not experience improvement.
The video below is a brief demonstration of using Energy EFT to overcome unforgiveness to self.


About the author: 

Susan Browne helps people to feel great in their energy and achieve their goals through ENERGY EFT and WELLNESS COACHING. GET IN TOUCH for more info.


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